3. Tag Team or Solo?
Certainly, it is easiest to train both twins at the same time. However, it may not work for all families. Identical -- monozygotic -- twins are easiest to train simultaneously because of their similar metabolism. Boy/girl twins are more likely to require differentiated training. If you do potty train both at the same time, they may benefit from companionship and competition, encouraging and challenging each other's successes and setbacks. Nevertheless, don't be surprised if one's success causes the other to regress. You'll have to decide whether a one-on-one approach is more effective. For some twins, potty training together is simply too distracting and disruptive. Potty time turns into play time, often with very messy results!
4. Make Rewards Work for You
Many parents have great success using incentives or rewards. (Let's be honest: bribes!) With twins, this can work to your advantage, or create havoc. You know your twins best and will have to evaluate their dynamic. You only want to offer a reward with success; how will the other twin react when he doesn't receive one? Some twins don't have the cognitive ability to connect the consequences, and you'll only incite unnecessary tantrums. However, if your twins are competitive, the presentation of a reward for successful potty-ing may prove to be highly motivating. Find your twins' individual currency; what works? Is it candies, stickers or dollar-store treats? Perhaps it the promise of an adventure or activity is a more appropriate reward.
5. To Buy Two?
There are some things that multiples simply can't share. Buy at least two potty seats. If you try to get by with one -- even if they are training at different times -- I guarantee that there will be a showdown when they both try to go at the same time. For that reason, to reduce squabbles, I recommend potty chairs rather than inserts that fit into the toilet. You may even want to consider multiple sets to place throughout the house. If your twins are stingy about sharing, you can designate ownership, but in the long run, this can cause extra drama for children who only want to go in "their" potty. However, it may be more necessary to specify with a boy and girl, especially if you are using a splash guard or deflector on the potty seat.
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