Encouraging Individuality in Twins/Multiples

2) Don't refer to them as a "unit."
 

Whenever possible, avoid labeling your children as "the twins" or "the triplets" As you recognize that they are individual children, so will they. It's a challenge; it takes double -- or triple -- the effort to call out their names separately. Gently discourage others from referring to them as a single unit.

3) Reward/punish individually
 

When I talk to adult twins about their childhood, I often hear a common theme of resentment when they remember being punished for a crime committed by their twin. As parents of multiples, we realize that it's just far too easy to mete out punishment on an all-for-one/one-for-all basis. But we have to remember that that although they often act like a twin tag team of terror, it's vital to recognize and address each individual's role in their antics.